I'm Aimee Schultz,
a PARENT COACH. 
 

Four kids and 12 years into this parenting

thing and it is more fun than ever. Here is a

bit about my story...

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I was a stay-at-home mom for many

years and now I am a single, full-time

working mom. I have been through

leaving my family's faith tradition,

divorce, and many other life

transitions. Through all of that I have

had many great parenting moments

and plenty of awful parenting

moments....

 

In the past I would inevitably find myself

in a loop. Can you relate to this loop? 

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"adult tantrums",

shame,

aggressive behavior,

apologizing,

self-loathing,

impatience,

yelling,

and shame again

 

That loop was broken up by some great times with my kids where I thought I had overcome these parenting challenges.... but then back in some variation of the loop.

 

I felt like something was wrong with me for the longest time as I couldn't get control of my emotional reactivity. I felt awful and would often think things like...

 

            "I grew up in a loving home, so why am I struggling so much?"

                                                 

 or

                                               

           "My parents didn't yell or get aggressive with me, so why do I                                                          struggle with this with my own kids?"

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or

             

          ""How do I connect with my kids better? Will they even like me when they get older?"

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or

 

          "Why are these small things so triggering for me?"

 

I had periods of postpartum depression, low confidence, and no idea who I was outside of my role as mom. One of my kids has a really hard time regulating their emotions and their outbursts would send me over the edge frequently. I didn't know how to "control them" let alone teach them any helpful regulation skills. I started on a journey to figure out how to parent, looking for a new framework and a new approach. 

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Here is where the                   comes out and my whole life changes.  

 

 

I started learning about attachment science, brain development, empathy, emotion work, grounding tools, mindfulness and so many cool things about connection and the science behind it. I was learning about myself and my children at the same time and it was amazing. Not only did I start to understand my role in helping my 4-year old stop hitting and biting and my role in handling my pre-teens big emotions, I connected some dots in my own emotional landscape and life.  I took on the responsibility to regulate my own emotions (rather than giving my child that responsibility) and I took on the responsibility to meet my needs (rather than giving my child that responsibility). Now I care for myself so I can model it to my kids and so I can help my children get through their tough moments. 

 

And today.  My current relationships with my kids....... is perfect.

 

Joke.

 

I still get frustrated. I still yell. I get impatient and annoyed when I wish I didn't. I will always be working toward bettering myself. The difference now is that MY OWN OUTBURSTS are waaaaay less intense and way less frequent. I have more control over my reactivity and skills to manage difficult moments. I also know there are resources and great ideas out there when I need them.

 

MY KIDS' OUTBURSTS are also way less frequent and less intense. Halelujah.

 

The repair process I use when there is a conflict is SOOO fulfilling. My kids and I are very close. We are forgiving and mostly patient with each other's mistakes. We connect on an emotional level that I did not know was possible and I am in awe of my incredible humans constantly.  I am also on a path of loving and connecting with myself that is very rewarding and also very challenging. 

 

When we understand ourselves and our children, we have so much power to create the lives we want. When we have a healthy connection with our kids, we give them the confidence and resilience to sail into adulthood with everything they need to be successful. I don't have to be perfect, I don't want to be perfect. I want to be aware, compassionate, and forever evolving. 

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I would love to meet you and hear YOUR story. It's not too late. 

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